“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives” – Brene Brown
Picture this: you’re meeting someone cute for the first time at a cozy restaurant. You’ve exchanged pleasantries and ordered your food. As the waiter steps away, you feel a flush creep up your cheeks. You’re now alone with someone you’re really interested in, but after the small talk, you’re at a loss for words and probably thinking, “what do I say now?!” 😱
Don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Finding out that you hit it off with someone may be the easy part for some of us, but forming deep and meaningful connections can feel much harder, as it takes a lot of time and effort to maintain a relationship. The road ahead with someone you love can be smooth at times and bumpy at others.
So, how do we deepen that special connection we have with someone we love?
This is something that we’ve always wondered about here at Genvie. Having a deep and lasting bond with your partner can lead to positive emotions that make your bedroom experience so much more pleasurable and unforgettable 😉
Thus, we’ve done a deep dive into our own experiences, looking back at our past and present relationships to compile some of the best tips that have worked for us:
1. Be compassionate and show empathy
We all have those days where we wake up on the wrong side of bed and nothing goes right. If someone close to you is experiencing a bad day, lend them a listening ear and understand why they’re feeling so down. Sometimes, that’s all the TLC you need to connect with someone!
2. Pay attention to their needs
On a similar note, be mindful of others’ needs. Look out for what they’re trying to tell you through their words and actions. Are they angry? Sad? Happy? What would they like you to do? Once you know exactly what they need, it’s easy to put their needs first and give them the love they require.
3. Respond, not react
When things get heated, it’s natural to react instinctively and emotionally. However, that can seem very defensive. We’re sure that’s not what you want, so always remember to listen first before you respond to what someone is saying. This is our secret ingredient for effective and meaningful communication that deepens your connections.
4. Be thankful for your loved ones
We don’t meet people by accident. We keep our loved ones in our lives because they mean something to us and there’s just something about them that makes us feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside. Take some time to show them some gratitude and let them know you’re not taking their love for granted.
5. Be 100% present
Out with someone who's made you their priority to catch up? Cherish it!
Whenever you’re spending quality time with someone you love, give them your fullest attention.
Time is precious for everyone: with busy schedules and other life commitments, sometimes setting a date can be quite the challenge. But when the stars align and a date has been set, the very least one can do is respect the time given to spend it with each other.
So, set your phones and other devices aside and commit to being in each other's presence to bond.
6. Surprise them with small but significant acts of service
One of the five love languages, acts of service can be very heartfelt and are always appreciated, even if they’re not your dominant method of showing love. It’s a way of reminding anyone – your partner, friend, or date – that you’re looking out for them. Help them out with work, run them a nice warm bath or give them a shoulder massage – these are all small but lovely acts of kindness that will bring a smile to their faces and make them feel closer to you.
7. Be open to change
It’s a cliche, but we all know that change is the only constant! Our relationships will evolve as we grow and that means we have to remain open to change so that our connections remain fulfilling. Face changes with open hearts and minds and work through them with your loved ones so that your bond becomes stronger over time.
8. Have meaningful conversations
We can’t always be talking about the weather or our horoscopes… right? 😰At some point, it’s important to find out more about each other through engaging in meaningful conversations. For romantic partners, some good things to talk about would be your values and beliefs and perhaps some important things to remember in the bedroom. This helps you understand each other more intimately and completely.
9. Communicate openly
Of course, open and respectful communication forms the building blocks of every healthy relationship. None of us are mind readers (unless you’re Professor X!) which makes it important for us to be open and frank with our loved ones. How else would they know what you need and why you’re feeling blue? Communicating honestly with each other is the best way to avoid any unwanted misunderstandings that will get in the way of your connection.
10. Love purely, freely and wholeheartedly
Lastly, we urge you to love freely and unconditionally. Forging a connection with someone is a leap of faith and growing to love them might take even longer. Once you’re there, however, it’s important to accept the other person as they are, warts and all. Our imperfections make up who we are and we should embrace that. As cheesy as this sounds 🧀we’re beautiful just the way we are!
Stuck? Here’s something that might just do the trick…
Our sister brand Hedonist is launching a brand new social card game, Letz Get Naughty! With 59 sizzling questions and 10 racy dares, Letz Get Naughty promises an exciting night that you won’t forget, no matter who you choose to play it with. Uncover the deets of your best friend’s bedroom life, learn what gets your new date all hot and bothered or discover your partner’s secret kinks.
Beyond just finding out these sexy secrets, Letz Get Naughty challenges taboos around sex and sexuality, facilitating open and honest conversations about pleasure that are helpful to us. This helps us bridge the gap between us and the people we love, deepening our connections in ways we cannot imagine.
Letz Get Naughty officially launches on 4 September. Cop yours at Hedonist, pop open a bottle of bubbly, and get ready for a cheeky time with your partner or friends!